Tanessa Howell

L'AMOR WOMEN OF POWER

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Tanessa Howell

Growing up and through my early 20’s I was heavily influenced by the people around me (as most of us are). I was told who I was, what other people thought of me, what I should be planning for my future, what I should avoid doing and being, and most of all who I should be trusting to make these decisions for me. Aside from a few hobbies that I picked out myself, every part of my life was designed by someone else and I didn’t have the trust or the confidence to do anything different. I started to lose touch with the most authentic and happy version of myself that I was when I was little. As I got older I wanted to get back to this version of myself, in a life I was happy with, in a relationship I felt supported and unconditionally loved in. I tried getting into new relationships with people I thought were different from the others who had manipulated me thinking they would help me get back to that version of myself again and bring me the happiness I wanted back so badly. But every time I would lose more of myself all over again ending up in a new life I still wasn’t happy in.

A few relationships later I was starting to believe that I would stay in this cycle forever because I was simply attracted to manipulators but couldn’t figure it out until it was too late. How was I going to be able to trust myself to make the right decisions in life and in relationships? A few years later I came to the end of yet another unfulfilling relationship. I was talking with my best friend about the cycles of manipulation, unhappy relationships, unhappy lifestyle and most of all a lack of trust in myself for how I felt about it all and not knowing what to do next. Then she said “there is nothing wrong with how you feel about it simply because it's true for you”. In that moment I realized the depth of distrust I had in myself. It had me questioning everything in my life, even the very emotions I was feeling. That’s when I knew I needed to rebuild confidence and trust in myself so that I wouldn’t keep getting sucked into these manipulative relationships that continued to shape my life into something I wasn’t going to be happy with.

So…I embarked on my healing journey by reading many books, listening to personal development and inner healing gurus, and getting back into the little things that made me happy. I started to see a big shift in the people that I had around me, the direction of my career, and the types of relationships I was getting into and I started becoming more like the authentic and happy little girl I used to be. Now, I have a business that feels fulfilling and exciting that allows me to do what I was always meant to do, I have a huge group of loving and supportive friends that want me to do what makes me happy, a healthy relationship with a partner that loves me just the way that I am, and a loving and trusting relationship with myself that allows me to feel confident in all the decisions I make for myself! If you have also lost touch with your authentic self and your joy, it's never too late to start the journey to mend the most important relationship with your life. Your relationship with YOU!